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Who’s Driving? Deciding Before the First Drink

The most useful decision of the night happens hours before anyone orders — in the group chat, right next to the plan. Here’s how good crews make it automatic.

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Who's Driving? Deciding Before the First Drink
The most useful decision of the night happens hours before anyone orders — in the group chat, next to the plan.
The 60-second plan The full minute →
  1. 1Name the driver in the chatBefore anyone leaves — a name, not a maybe.
  2. 2Driver’s drinks are on the crewSodas covered. The seat should never cost money.
  3. 3Pool the ride moneyA shared backup for a taxi or rideshare, agreed up front.
  4. 4Text “Home” when everyone’s inOne word closes the loop. Nobody left guessing.

The Toolkit

The practical playbook — decide the driver, kill the distractions, build the backup. All nine guides →
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Before you go

Pick the Driver Early

Decide in the group chat, not the parking lot. A driver chosen at noon never has to argue at midnight.

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Plan B

Cash for the Ride Home

A twenty in the shoe beats a hard conversation at 1 a.m. Build the backup before you need it.

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Stories that stuck

Real nights, real saves, and the small awkward moments that mattered. All stories →
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We assign a driver the way we assign who brings the speaker. It’s just part of the plan now.

— From The Group Chat That Grew Up

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Awkward questions about getting everyone home, answered plainly. All questions →
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Neighbors who help everyone get home

Local partners who keep the rides, the sodas and the couches coming. Join the board →